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EG-- A new website for the regular Joe & Jane

2011-03-22T23:15:00.001-05:00

EG: Examples for the Everyday Gay is a magazine that offers essays on culture, style, home, food, relationships, and travel for the gay person who has both good taste and a sensible budget.

For this I jam...

2010-04-20T17:05:00.000-05:00

Obama Chicago neighbor's house sold

2010-04-07T15:29:00.000-05:00

At least you know you're in a (super) safe neighborhood, and how cool would it be to have the Obama's next door.

http://dailyherald.com/story/?id=371387&src=143

Snow, Earthquake, Chicago can roll

2010-02-11T13:50:00.000-06:00

A little 3.8-magnitude earthquake hit Illinois at 4 a.m. Wednesday, with the epicenter just west of Elgin. Although it was no where near the magnitude of what hit Haiti, the shacking was felt between 4 states and only 50 miles from downtown Chicago. I couldn't even imagine the damage that would happen.

Groundhog Day 2010

2010-02-02T10:18:00.000-06:00

Punxsutawney Phil may not be a scientist and be able to accurately predict the end of winter, but his showmanship is stellar. Here's a video of a cute little groundhog.

Business Venture

2010-01-26T14:58:00.002-06:00

starting your own company is much more challenging that I though it would be.

Wired McGwire

2010-01-12T09:48:00.001-06:00

Did anyone doubted that Mark McGwire was using steroids when he was popping home run balls every time he stepped up to the plate. However, the unfortunate reality is that we probably were enjoying the entertainment value too much to really care if the rumors were justified. Mark's drug enhancements are really a reflection of the state of America, and the demand for employees (in this case a baseball pro) to be at the top no matter the cost or what corners are cut. It's rather sad.

Image Source: New York Times

2010: The Year of the Flying Car

2009-12-29T11:40:00.001-06:00

It's no secret that 2009, and the last decade, was probably one of the most challenging periods in America's history. We saw some of the biggest challenges ever known; from massive natural disasters, amazing advances in medicine and technology, a new war on terror, an economic melt-down, man-made black holes, farewell to icons, and a shift in American politics that changed everything.

In most depiction of the future, the 2000's have always been a period where we envisioned great peace (or mass destruction) and flying cars. It's hard to predict the reality of peace, but the truth is that the flying car is almost here. Granted the major car companies probably won't be mass producing these cars anytime soon, but in some ways the introduction of the flying car is symbolic of a promising future. No, we may not be living like the Jetsons quite yet, but it shows that the future we once dreamt of is coming to fruition.

More on the flying car:
Flying Car 2010

Holiday Healthy

2009-12-16T14:48:00.002-06:00

Whether it’s an office holiday party or a family gathering, the season for giving is more like the season for gaining. The cookies, eggnog, buffet dinners, overflowing libations, and all the delicious temptations of the holidays tend to leave us loosening up our belts. Is it possible to enjoy the season without starting to look like Santa Claus? Yes, there are ways to curb those temptations and survive the holidays.

If you’re will power is low when it comes to these tasty treats, like mine, then you know how hard it is to resist the calling of those cookies your boss brought into work. Oh, the joy of those sweet, sweet, cookies! How they just melt in your mouth with every moist God sent morsel… that is until you realize you just wolfed down 5 of them at 150 calories each. Yikes! So, what are some ways to prevent yourself from piling up the calories and feeling a little holiday heavy?

Moderation: Having a little self-control over the holidays is the best way to maintain a healthier season. Some of the best ways to curb those temptations is by choosing healthy food options to balance your plate between healthy picks (veggies, light meat rather than dark, rice cakes, etc.) and that yummy junk food (cookies, cake, etc). Also, try to avoid or reduce the amount of those fatty dips or add-on’s that tend to sneak onto your plates.Think of it this way, ranch dressing (often used to add flavor to veggies) has 150 calories per 2 tbsp. (on average), which can add-up throughout the event. Watching your portion sizes are also key factors to healthy holidays, so be mindful of how much you're putting on your plate or drinking.

Water: Believe it or not, water can be the savior to most of your holiday weight gaining issues. When you’re drinking alcohol, try to blend in a glass of water between drinks. Not only will it balance out your alcohol level (preventing you from getting too drunk), but will also help hydrate your body. Drinking water at room temperature while eating can also help make your stomach feel fuller, and will send signals to your brain to stop or slow consumption. Above all else, water aids in hydrating your body during dry winter months, which can make you feel and look more energetic. So hydrate!

Exercise: It may be hard to work-in an exercise routine during the holidays, but you owe it to your health and well being. Staying active will not only keep you trim, but will also help lower stress levels. It’s no secret that the holidays can be a stressful time with family, travel, and money. A lot of us will turn to food for comfort, but too often it adds to the stress on our bodies. Whether you use a gym, walk in the mall, or do yoga on your new Wii, find something to keep you active. Excerise will reduce the stress, burn those calories, and make you look/feel younger [Fountain of Youth].

A healthy holiday season is possible, and it doesn’t have to restrict you from enjoying all the things you’ve grown to love. Following a few simple steps will help get you on the right track, and you’re body will thank you after all the festivities simmer down.

Modern Etiquette

2009-12-09T12:41:00.001-06:00

Whether you're in a business setting or just walking down the street, the modern rules of etiquette and manners may seem to be void from everyone you encounter. Is a renaissance of polite behavior upon us or are we heading into the dark age? Americans worldwide are known for being rude, but even within our own borders we tend to be snarky and forget how to be civilized.

Have you been in line at Starbucks and over heard another patron get snippy with the barista over making a small mistake on their drink? Or maybe you've been walking down the sidewalk and you get behind a group of three who refuse to move out of the way so you can pass? Maybe you're in an industry that has a lot of demands and you often see a co-worker loose their cool in a situation or become really mean with a service rep that's trying to help resolve an issue? We live in a day and age where the line between work/life stresses seem to be blurred, and it can seem like everyone wants a piece of you. Generally, when we get stressed or angered we tend to forget how to retain any manners (even when the person we're dealing with may have none), but that's when they're most needed.

As in any situation you can't control what others do or say, but you do have the power over your own actions and words. Remember that others are watching (your children, friends, and co-workers) and what you do or say can speak volumes on what others secretly think about you. Basic manners go a long way, and can really impact your life and personal happiness.

Some helpful links:

First Snow

2009-12-03T12:37:00.017-06:00

For those [in Chicago] today is the first snow for the winter months. The first snow fall, for many of us, is a sign that the holiday season is officially here, and can be an exciting time to celebrate with friends and family. However for the unemployed it can also be a difficult period to remain positive and stay strong on your search. Cabin fever, depression, and loss of interest are some common side effects of lacking employment during the winter months.

If you're in a region where weather keeps you inside for the majority of the time over the next five months it can be a challenge to not go a little crazy. Some of the ways I find to keep your mind sharp is exercising or joining an indoor sports league. You'd be surprised how much better you feel when you get out some aggression, and it also can be a great way to strengthen your networking skills. If sports aren't you thing, then you might find solace in becoming more active in your church or community. Charities need tons of volunteers during the winter mouths, and believe it or not employers highly regard folks more active in their community. Becoming a volunteer offers both the organization and individual so many benefits beyond what you would initially expect to gain.

The holidays can be stressful, especially if money is tight, but who says that you have to spend a ton of money to have a festive winter. Some of my best holiday memories came from when my family had the least amount of money for gifts or trips. For tons of ideas on how to simplify your holiday season, check out Real Simple.

It's true that few employers (with the except of retailers) are looking to hire during holiday months (Nov-Dec.), but what a lot of job seekers fail to realize is that those same employers are really gearing up for January. With the new year comes, for many companies, a renewed budget and the potential for hiring more employees or launching dominant projects. This can also be a great time for networking through friends and family at their holiday parties. One word of advise... although this is the time to really network at parties or social holiday events, don't make the mistake of talking too much about your desire to find work. You don't want to be 'that person' that can't shut up about being unemployed or look like you're fishing for employment (even though you are). Open up the conversation with common interests and hobbies. It's kind of the idea that most business deals happen on the golf course, but instead with a candy cane in hand.

This season, don't let the first snow put you out in the cold with a damper outlook to finding employment. Finding ways to stay active and networking is at your finger tips, so don't let the holiday pass you by without taking advantage of the opportunities that lay before you.

I 'Heart' Bill

2008-08-27T23:39:00.003-05:00

At the DNC Bill Clinton "warmed-up" the crowd for Biden's introduction. Probably the strongest statement Bill made was that "people the world over have always been impressed by the power of our example, then by the example of our power."

Man, I miss the Bill years!

pretty cool...

2008-08-12T03:43:00.002-05:00

NEOCON 2008

2008-06-10T23:47:00.008-05:00

NeoCon is to interior design as New York’s Fashion Week is to fashion. It’s the one time of the year where top interior designers, powerhouse A&D brands, and legendary design firms from around the world descend onto Chicago for three short days of incredible design and…of course fabulous parties. Thousands will pack the halls and million dollar showrooms of the Merchandise Mart hoping to catch a glimpse of the next big thing and mingle among some of the best and most talented designers in the industry.

If there’s one thing designers know better than design, it’s how to party. Over the span of the tradeshow there’s dozens of parties, special events, and award dinners where designers are treated like celebrities. Some of the more notable parties have been held at Union Station (IIDA), Millennium Park (Haworth), Apple Store (Allsteel/free iPod by attending), and the best rooftops (Lightology) and nightclubs (Lumen-Orange Skin) across Chicago. They have a saying during the tradeshow "what happens at NeoCon, stays at NeoCon." Whether or not it's true, sometimes letting loose and getting down is the best thing for business, and NeoCon is prime example of the degree companies are willing to go to get your attention and win your business.

Althrough the event is over, [here is a virtual recap of NeoCon 2008]

Sex and the City—

2008-06-04T01:05:00.003-05:00

Exactly a decade ago (June 6, 1998) the show premiered on HBO with thought provoking views on sex, relationships, urban life, and a storyline surrounding friendships. The show was a sensuous and ironic sitcom about four young, desirable, virtually inseparable New York bachelor girls who lead and confided in each-other their ever changing and confusing sex lives, as different as their natures. From the charming petite shoe whore Carrie Bradshaw to the somewhat nerdy and insecure lawyer Miranda to the prim and proper old-fashion Charlotte to the feminist man-eating nymphomaniac Samantha Jones, the show created a balance perspective for urban women (and gay men) across America.

It was the type of show that made people to move to NYC, just so that can be fabulous like Carrie. A show that proved that nothing was taboo, not even funky spunk! It covered issues from cheating, lesbians, “exploring yourself”, love, and of course sex.

With her Manolo Blahnik stepping in full stride Carrie and the gang jumped from the Big Apple right onto the Big Screen with a smashing success ($57 Million). The movie seemed to transition well between the tube to theaters with much of the same witty humor to light up the screen.

Every episode seemed to have some relationship advice that you could apply to your life. One of my favorite lines came from the episode where Samantha had just got back with Richard after he cheated on her. He took the girls to Atlantic City for Charlotte’s birthday where no one seemed in the mood to do anything! Samantha was so traumatized by catching Richard that she starred to be paranoid and overly obsessive about him doing it again. At one point she freaked out and took the stairs from the lobby to Richards’ penthouse suite, busts through the hotel room doors only to find Richard reading the paper. After some dialogue between the two, she says “I’m too old for this shit. I love you, but I love myself more” and that was the end of Richard. It was a line that I took to heart, because I was dealing with a similar situation. It reminded me the importance of being true to yourself and not putting up with other peoples lies and BS.

Probably the best part of the film/show is the friendship between the characters. A rare type of friendship that helps carry you through life, and makes you a stronger, more balanced, and better person. Friends like that are always there when you need it the most, know you the best, make you laugh, and will always be your side; even through the thick and thin of your other relationships. Find friends like that and never let go. As for me… I’m holding on tight to mine.

to buy or not

2008-05-22T21:55:00.000-05:00

What do you do when you know you’re going to be losing weight, but need new cloths? Do you buy for the size that you will be or do you just waste money on temporary cloths?

DRAMA!

on the 17’s

2008-05-21T13:39:00.001-05:00

I’m trying something new in addition to my weekly exercise routine. The goal is to whip my body down to a trim and new me. My friend suggested this Men’s Health routine testifies it works like a charm and they saw noticeable change within two weeks. Dropping 15 pounds has really been a challenge over the last few weeks, and I’ve only seen a marginal difference in weight loose. Granted my eating and drinking habits play a huge part in loosing the weight, but I’m going to try this new regimen as an added effort. So, here’s the plan for the next two weeks:

Everyday I’m going to alternate between push-ups and sit-ups in descending order from 17:
17 push-ups
17 sit-ups
16 push-ups
16 sit-ups
15 push-ups
15 sit-ups
14 push-ups
14 sit-ups
13 push-ups
13 sit-ups….

Leona Lewis

2008-04-30T22:34:00.001-05:00

my new favorite!

An Ear Full

2008-04-24T23:38:00.008-05:00

I’ve been dealing with sinuses and a cold for the past week. The fluctuation of the weather certainly hasn’t been a helping factor in getting better, but slowly but surely I was recovering. That was until last night when it hit me hard!

My head was so congested that I tried to relieve the pressure by pinching my nostrils, closing my mouth, and blowing. It’s a trick I know MANY do, and something even my doctor showed me a long time ago. Typically it works fine and does the trick, but last night may have been a painful exception.

I did the trick after work yesterday and by that night I had acute pains shoting through my ear and the rest of my body. Every time I swallowed, hiccupped, coughed, or even took a deep breath I could feel a surge of pain racing throughout my body. Needless to say it was a long night and I didn't get much rest.

This morning I went to my doctor and discovered I have an ear infection, but my doctor made no mention of a damaged eardrum. After getting my medicine and going back to work my ear started to feel like it was draining, so I put a tissue near my ear and when I pulled it back the tissue had spots of bloody. My hearing has been muffled ever since, and that’s when I decided to take this picture…

WTF! That ain’t normal! Now I'm really wondering how much damage was done and if my doctor evaluated me correctly.

Hey fatso! Put down that Cheeseburger!

2008-04-16T00:31:00.006-05:00

It’s been about a month since I started my “diet” and things are going OK, not great, but OK. I haven’t lost my goal weight, but I am finding that it’s getting harder and harder to lose weight the older I get. Like a roller coaster my weight seems to go up, down, level, and then go back up almost daily.

Despite the fluctuation in my weight and the inability to shed 10 pounds, I am proud that I change my habits (for the most part). These are habits that have stuck with me for years, so this is a BIG deal!

I’ve eliminated my consumption of cola drinks by over 90%, and replaced coffee with green tea. Considering I use to have up to 4 cups of coffee and 48 oz (or more) of soda every day, I think it’s a pretty damn good improvement from a month ago.

One thing I’ve really struggled with is changing my food and alcohol behavior. I love eating and drinking! I tend to forget the rules of late night eating or skimming on really fatty additives. To me life is richer when there’s good food and wine at your disposal. Changing my mindset to making better decisions is going to be a big challenge, but all it takes is will power and small daily changes that will eventually become my new lifestyle.

Exercise!
Ok, this is where life gets in the way! I'm a hard worker and put in some long hours, which has recently caught up to me. Lately I'm tired and rarely am I willing to go run or lift weights after working 13 hours! I think with the weather getting better I’ll be more incline to get outside.

This thought that I can eat a cheeseburger and fries, then just burn it off later just has got to end. At my age my body can't burn it off at the same rate and I have to stop thinking I'm 26...because that ain't the cause!

busted, recap

2008-04-07T19:44:00.000-05:00

Ten years ago today...George Michael was busted, and busted out of the closet. This music video was inspired by his arest in a Beverly Hills park.

Sunscreen

2008-04-02T10:14:00.001-05:00

I remember hearing this song when it first came out...it still makes me feel good and optimistic.

trim the fat

2008-03-13T20:15:00.003-05:00

Ok, I admit I've got a little extra junk in my trunk lately, so I'm determined to trim down. My goal is to drop 10 pounds by June and this is how I'm going to do it:

Exercise
Working out is going to be the key to loosing the weight and redefining my body.
- Cardio 3x's a week (running or water polo)
- weights 2-3x's a week

Diet
Diets rarely work for me, so I'm going to take a sensible approach to watching what I eat and tracking it. I found a great free online program called Fitday.com that will monitor and calculate your daily intake.

Cutting down on soda and late night snack will be on the path to a healthier new Troy. It’s amazing how bad soda is for you, even diet (probably worse), so I’ll be switching to water, Gatorade, or juice.

Two really big challenges for me will be limiting the amount of coffee and alcohol (not together) that I drink. I love to socialize and the day just doesn’t begin until I’ve had my Americano. However, coffee packs a ton of useless calories, so I’ll be switching to green tea. It has more antioxidants and zero calories…it’s just better. As for alcohol, well its no secrete the affects alcohol has both on your body and pocket book. I'm going to switch from my favorite Harp beer to rum and diet coke. Despite what diet coke does to the boddy, I'm still going to be eliminating a big part of my calorie intake. Not to mention I’ll still be able to hang out with my friends and not feel like I'm giving up everything.

Sleep
I’ve heard over and over again the positive benefits of getting a full nights rest. Being that I'm a night owl and I work the early day shift this can be difficult. It can be especially challenging to get enough sleep when I work out late, which can keep me up. I’ve got to train myself to get in bed at a decent hour and stop playing on the computer so much. I might even invest in a TV and veg for the last hour before I go to bed…yes, I don’t have a TV.

If all else fails then I'm going on the Nicole Richie diet or getting lipo,

Ellen DeGeneres speaks out

2008-03-03T22:40:00.003-06:00

Proof that no matter how far we've come, we still have a long way to go.

Thank you Ellen for speaking out on this story!
A message delivered to 2.5 million America viewers.

Uncanny..

2008-02-28T11:59:00.002-06:00

office view

2008-02-16T20:38:00.002-06:00

The view from my office...not bad.

Farewell Heath

2008-01-22T19:58:00.000-06:00

In Case of Emergency

2008-01-20T11:46:00.000-06:00

Friday I was on the Redline (Chicago) coming home from work when I saw this “In Case of Emergency” sign reinterpret...So hilarious!

New Year

2008-01-02T20:11:00.001-06:00

'08 is going to be GREAT!

Christmas Solo

2007-12-25T14:00:00.000-06:00

The streets are quiet, sidewalks empty, and a chilled wind knocks at my window as I celebrate Christmas, my way, with holiday tunes and feasting on Doritos. This year’s been a busy blur, and I'm just not sure I’ve got the energy for any holiday cheer. I just need to catch my breath and do Christmas alone.

This year’s been crazy; job crunch, flash floods, bills piling up, everybody in pink, New York deux, and mad holiday rush. Damn! I need a break, time to unwind and do Christmas right this time. No bah humbug, just need to fly solo on this one.

Still, it would have been nice to seen the fam or have someone to hang out with…

Holiday Fifteen

2007-12-18T19:04:00.000-06:00

The holidays are always a great time to catch up with friends and family, enjoy tasty treats, elaborate dinners, and drink lots of your favorite beverages. If you work in an office that enjoys their sweets like mine does, then expect over exposure to tons of candy, cookies, and free lunches almost on the daily.

In the world of sales, especially design, you’re working the networking circuit at fancy martini bars, sponsoring lunch-n-learns, taking clients out to their favorite restaurants, and entertainting a lot! Today for example we had pastries from Au Bon Pain, lunch from Portillo’s, and then on Friday I head to Sepia for a business meeting and appreciation lunch for one of our clients. Needless to say I’ve been pigging out all week.

Combining the holidays with my line of work has built up to an average of about 10-15 extra pounds. Although I could careless what people think about my weight gain, I am starting to feel a little lethargic. Thank god the “stuff your face” season is almost over, and I can get back on my Nicole Richey diet of Quaaludes and liquid lunches.

"for the cost of a few cups of your morning coffee"

2007-12-12T02:50:00.000-06:00

Drew Peterson set up a website earlier today asking the public to help defend justice and find his wife. The DefendDrew.com site was only up for a few hours before it was disabled--most likely due to complaints.

On the site it had the "story" from Drew's perspective, links to missing adults, a plea to the public for justice and a fair trial, statistics on how many people each year are wrong convicted of a crime, and of coarse how to donate. The best line on the site read “for the cost of a few cups of your morning coffee” donors can help fund the legal defense so a private investigator can be hired to help find Peterson’s missing wife Stacy.

Isn't that a Save the Children line? Maybe Drew should get Sally Struthers as his spokeswoman?

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? You want the public to help you get away with murder! The only way Stacy is going to surface is face down in the canal.

No thanks, I'd rather have my grande Americano!

Full story: Drew seeks aid for legal defense from public :: CHICAGO SUN-TIMES :: Search for Stacy Peterson

What the DILF?

2007-11-19T00:17:00.000-06:00

Today at work I helped two fairly pretty women who must have been drunk and looked like “Girls Gone Wild—Viagra Triangle Season”. They told me all about how they made out with one of my co-workers, about her gay brother that lives in France, got mad at me when I didn’t tell her how pretty she was in her license (require verification when a credit card isn’t signed), that I looked like was 27 (the other one called me out at 40’s---ouch), and then one told me “You’re totally a DILF”.

I looked at them with a look of confusion as they giggled and left the store.

What the hell is DILF? *scratch head*

For this lager I pray

2007-10-14T23:36:00.000-05:00

Our lager, Which art in barrels, Hallowed be thy drink,.Thy will be drunk, (I will be drunk), At home as I am in the tavern. Give us this day our foamy head, And forgive us our spillages, As we forgive those who spill against us. And lead us not to incarceration, Butdeliver us from hangovers. For thine is the beer, The bitter and the lager, Forever and ever, barmen.

Hard Day...favorite song right now...

2007-10-07T18:55:00.000-05:00

DON'T BRING ME DOWN
DON'T BRING ME DOWN
DON'T BRING ME DOWN

I've never been one
For playing games
You can move your mouth forever
But the words sound just the same
Something like
Bang bang you're dead
Couldn't we just make love instead
Say yes because it's what we do best
And I've had sucha hard day

Take me where their eyes can't find us
Without you I may as well just...

How much - do I have to say
What more - do you have to see
What will it take to make you love me
Well you're not the first
You're not the last
You're not even the one who loves me the best <<
But all I think about is you

So take me where their eyes can't find us
Without you I may as well just...

So take me where their eyes can't find us
Without you I may as well just...

DON'T BRING ME DOWN
DON'T BRING ME DOWN
DON'T BRING ME DOWN

Please don't wander from my door

I've never been one
For playing games
You can move your mouth forever
But the words sound just the same
Bang vang you're dead
Shouldn't we just make love instead
Say yes 'cause it's what we do best
And I've had such a hard day

So don't bring me down
Won't you give me a break
Somebody give me a break now!

DON'T BRING ME DOWN
DON'T BRING ME DOWN
DON'T BRING ME DOWN

Sweet little boy with oh such a big mouth
Harsh words can get you into hot water
When people don't understand you baby
I'm always here for you
And I
And I will never bring you down, down, down my baby

Trust me
I want you to trust me
Oh trust me
'Cause I won't bring you down
(Don't bring me down)
I won't bring you down
Do you trust me
Yeah

Gonzales Resigns... big surprise

2007-08-28T08:48:00.000-05:00

Brendan Smialowski for The New York Times

Sounding Off...

2007-08-14T00:33:00.000-05:00

A hate crime hitting close to home...the other day my friend went to Sound Bar, a popular STRAIGHT nightclub downtown, and this is what happened:

"So my friend and I visiting from NY decided to go out downtown last night. He wore sandles and the dorman wouldnt let him in so he went to get his manager to see if maybe it would be alright..The manager of SOUNDBAR told us that fags need to go to Lakeview we dont allow fags in our bar..we countinued to yell back and forth and finally got a cab..well the doorman ripped my friend out of the cab and choked him while the manager of the club pulled me out behind the cab, ripped my shirt and necklace totally off me in the streets. We were in shock so we got a cab home called the police with my roommate and went back to the scene to report it. As we show up the cops are already there and the manager reported me that i spit on him. In the end I was arrested..for something he said i did..which i didnt do. This was a hate crime against me and im embarrassed that I would be thrown in jail for 10 hours for being beaten up and called a fag by the manager of a club in downtown Chicago. This is not the end of this and our courtdate is for next month."

WTF?! From what I understand he's working with Lambda Legal to help resolve the situation. Sound Bar use to be friendly to all kinds, but I guess they're taking the big boobs and jock dude approach....umm, if you're trying to be cool Sound Bar, you just hit a soar note.

Make sure to voice your opinion by calling or emailing the owner of the club:
email: sound-bar@sound-bar.com
phone: 312.787.4480

well done?

2007-08-14T00:30:00.000-05:00

i was in line at McDonald's and this woman orders a cheeseburger "well done". isn't that sort of like the people that stand there pondering what they're going to get...have you people not see the menu before? As for the well done part...I thought all McDonald's burgers were made the same....cardboard soaked in animal fat, deep fried, dressed with ketchup and mustard and then served. duh!

Back on Track!

2007-07-25T15:50:00.000-05:00

EMPLOYED!!

now working for dtex.com

Woo Hoo!

oh Canada, Polopalooza 2007

2007-07-24T14:22:00.000-05:00

There's nothing like going up Toronto for a weekend of water polo and fun. Made some friends, ate a lot, did some sight seeing, and played some mean games of water polo.

Check our the photos:

A funny perspective on the Canada/US border:

meow

2007-07-11T16:07:00.000-05:00

I thought this was kind of cute...

The Angry Inch (of water)

2007-06-27T17:45:00.000-05:00

Stormy weather hit Chicago hard the other night, and we don't have much of a break until tomorrow. In my area alone there was flooding, power outtages, and downed trees. For those fortunate enough to live on higher plains yesterday was just another storm. However for those living in sub-levels, like me, the rain changed lives.

I'm grateful that I wasn't home when the water started pouring through the door and parts of the walls. I realize it could have been a lot worse, but the difficult part came today when I had to throw away pictures, books, furniture, sentimental items, and other things destroyed by the 1" of rain water and debris that covered most of my apartment. The stench of sewage, the infestation of bugs, and having to leave home really felt surreal.

Last night gave me a glimpse of what Katrina did to people. I know that my loss isn't even close to theirs, but when something like this happens it gives you greater perspective on life and highlights the importance of friends & family. My hero last night was my friend Jeremy V for taking me in and consoling a bruised and whirry heart.

Like, ewww...

2007-06-08T09:33:00.000-05:00

what a brat!!

IML Invades

2007-05-24T13:56:00.000-05:00

Similar to the cicadas (who are expect to hatch in the thousands this summer), the International Male Leather (IML) invades downtown Chicago this weekend (Memorial Day). The event is widely known for drawing thousands of leather daddies, bears (gay term), and curious spectators from around the globe. Most will come for the crazy parties, but a large portion will arrive into Chicago for some of the best in leather, fetish, and whatever kind of kink you can imagine.

Although 98% of the crowd consists of gay males, there is a growing representation of women and straight men. Apparently the market is one of the best places to get quality leather goods from countries like Germany and Brazil. For the queer boys it often turns into a great location for people watching and a bit of a freak show.

Today was the first day I noticed boys from IML walking around the Palmer house and in front of me at Subway. They’re rugged guys who to the untrained queer eye might look like skinhead punks. IML is not for the timid or those who may have religious conflictions, but if you are brave enough to enter the event, expect seedy behavior and things that will most definitely make you go…’hmmm, that’s interesting’.

WTF?

2007-05-21T21:44:00.001-05:00

Farewell Falwell

2007-05-16T10:13:00.000-05:00

Jerry Falwell dies at 73 and sparkes a frenzy of comments from every angle of his evangelical and political agenda. Falwell is best remembered for attempting to bring his religious ideals and private prejudices, which often translated as blunt bigotry, into public policy. Some of his more notorious comments came two days after the terrorist attacks of September 11…

"I really believe that the pagans, and the abortionists, and the feminists, and the gays and the lesbians who are actively trying to make that an alternative lifestyle, the ACLU, People For the American Way, all of them who have tried to secularize America – I point the finger in their face and say `you helped this happen' ... "God will not be mocked."

Or this one…

[On racial minorities] "God-ordained minorities who do indeed deserve minority status"

Falwell is also known for his outlandish attempt to label Teletubbies’ Tinky Winky as a ‘gay role model”, and pushing politicians in making anti-gay policies. In his efforts to bring his religious ideals to the forefront of America, he may have done more harm than good. And although many evangelists used the power of television to transform the religious right into a mighty force in American politics, Farwell often crossed the line and embarrassed his counterparts.

He made no apologies for his actions, comments, or pushing the ‘religious right’, he may be responsible for turning many people away from true Christian ideals of love, forbearance, mercy and inclusion.

Mr. Falwell, God doesn’t take sides.

Photo: Times Colonist

Africa 101

2007-05-08T11:41:00.000-05:00

Currently I’m working for an organization that does a lot of international relief and HIV/AIDS educational programs in countries like Kenya, South Africa, Zambia, and Swaziland. Working for an organization like this you see the impact of HIV/AIDS on third world countries. It certainly puts things in perspective when you see how millions of people in these countries are living and what they do to survive. Maybe having to skip my routine Starbucks break isn’t so bad, especially considering some have to skip entire meals.

It’s particularly frustrating to hear the stats on Africa and how it has over 60% of the population have AIDS/HIV, and with many more being diagnosed daily. The main challenge here isn’t medicine, nor is it supplies, but rather shifting a culture's perspective with the proper education of the issue.

So, how do you change a culture of a country, especially when even the government is in denial? As I’m learning it’s a slow and arduous process that demands commitment on a global scale. It’s about education from the top down, and breaking through the corruption that’s preventing a lot of the African people to get the medicine they need.

Africa isn’t the only one that needs education. Even though most of America still considers AIDS a ‘gay disease’, the facts are that African-American and Latina women are at the greatest risk. This is mainly due to the lack of education and denial among those communities. In the case of America, it’s about continuing education efforts, especially younger generations, providing resources for individuals affected by HIV/AIDS, and supporting the global efforts of AIDS organizations and governments.

EmployTroy -- The Movie (Limited Time)

2007-04-30T09:22:00.001-05:00

Super Poli

2007-04-23T14:40:00.001-05:00

Virginia Massacre

2007-04-17T00:02:00.000-05:00

As information on the gunman, his motives, and names of the victims slowly surface you have to wonder what makes someone snap like this.

What a sad day.

Chicago Tops L.A., to Bid for 2016 Games - New York Times

2007-04-15T11:43:00.000-05:00

Chicago Tops L.A., to Bid for 2016 Games - New York Times

Bravo to the Chicago Olympic committee for winning the vote and getting this great city one step closer to bringing the 2016 Olympics to Chicago for the first time.

On a side note…
I'd like to mention just how BRILLIANT the logo for Chicago 2016 really is. Rarely do you see a logo that is so simple and so meaningful. This is my interpretation of this logo:

FLAME: The red "flame" at first looks like the fire of the Olympic Torch. In fact when you look closer it's Chicago's famous skyline. However, the flame/skyline symbolizes something more. It's a reflection of Chicago rising from the great fire of 1871 to become one of the world’s biggest metropolises. This also could be a symbol of rising above set backs and challenges (the bases of Olympic dreams).The yellowish/orange almost appears to be beams of sunlight peering through the buildings, which yet again could being a symbol of a bright outlook or of hope.

BASE OF TORCH: The base of the torch is a complement to Chicago’s amazing lakefront (the blue) and natural resources. The blend of green could represent Chicago’s extensive parks and the city’s motto “The City in a Garden”. (Visit the Chicago Park District)

FONT: Simple, modern, and a reflection of art-deco. This is yet another hint to Chicago’s long history of architecture from greats like William LeBaron Jenney, Louis Sullivan, and Frank Lloyd Wright, and the heavy influence of this architectural style in the city.

Great job! VSA Partners

Prehistoric Television

2007-04-13T08:57:00.000-05:00

Are the networks that desperate for new shows?

Can the Geico cavemen make it in prime time? - By Seth Stevenson - Slate Magazine

I've got some ideas that can be added to bad shows:
"Are you smarter than a 5th grade Caveman"

"Apprentice: Trump vs. Cavemen"

"The Bachelor: Women so desperate to find a husband and be on TV that they’re willing to bone a Caveman”
(that one might be a bit long for a name of TV show)

"Cave Living: Martha Stoneart"

Pop Word

2007-04-02T13:54:00.000-05:00

There are approximately 400,000 words in the English language, but obviously there must be one word that is used more than any other. Certainly there are some words that are more popular among people in particular regions and even are slight variations of words. However, across the globe there’s one word that dominates the English language. What do you think it is?

Here are some to get you thinking…

OK?
a?
for?
Troy?
SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS?

Now for the answer: click here

A Rail System (and Patience) Are Stretched Thin in Chicago - New York Times

2007-04-02T01:49:00.000-05:00

Great! Just when you thought the EL couldn't get any slower!

A Rail System (and Patience) Are Stretched Thin in Chicago - New York Times

Internet Killed the Radio

2007-03-15T09:40:00.000-05:00

Internet radio is about to become extinct and we can thank the industry itself for the demise. The battle for royalties started several years ago with shareware conduits like Napster, but over the last few years the headlines have faded thanks to the introduction of pay services like iTunes (2001). Although it may seem as though the industry has slowed down on suing little 13 yr old girls for copyright infringement it has now set its focus on broadcasters. This time instead of using lawsuits to drain the consumer for more money, the music industry is weeding out the smaller broadcasters by hiking their royalty fees.

On March 2, 2007 a royalty hike was approved that is sure to force most internet broadcasters out of business. Currently iTunes has over 250 live streams from stations all over the world, but with the new fee structure that may be quickly reduced by 80% or more. Other venues for online radio and music download sites (ie Yahoo, Pandora, etc) could face similar reductions in content and services if the consumer doesn’t step up.

Write your representative today and help save internet radio.
http://www.savenetradio.org/

Coffee Shop Chatter

2007-03-01T01:12:00.000-06:00

One of the pleasures (and trust me there aren't many) of being unemployed is that you get to hang out at the coffee shop and surf the internet, read the paper, or just watch people. Typically you would think of the café as the common meeting ground among friends or a library barista, but as I’ve recently discovered more business takes place over a cup of “Jo” then you might think.

Whether it’s a casual meeting to discuss a fundraiser, interviewing a new hire, writing a book (JK Rowlings), or blogging about the latest celebrity gossip (PerezHilton.com), the coffee shop has evolved into a capitalist breeding ground.

On an average visit you’ll typically find the token student, retiree, unemployed searching for jobs (moi), or the transit commuter zipping in and out. Sometimes you can even find love, or at least get a date, from hanging out at coffee shop.

My favorite destination for sitting back and relaxing with a nice cup of coffee is Caribou Coffee on Cornelia and Halsted in Chicago. I also like the rich style of Austrian based Julius Meinl located at Addison/South Port.

Do you have a favorite café?

The 'Tube' Pick-up

2007-02-21T23:32:00.000-06:00

this is hilarious...
maybe i should bring this to Chicago's CTA. I've actually used the "pass the number on a note" to someone and it worked!

VideoJug: How To Chat Someone Up On The Train, Bus Or Tube

Winter in the City

2007-02-15T00:55:00.000-06:00

In Chicago we don't build snowmen, we build snow blobs...case and point in picture below:

Go Condi, Go Condi, get you groove on...

2007-02-13T00:10:00.000-06:00

Knowledge is Power

2007-02-07T09:51:00.000-06:00

Preserving the Iraq’s National Library and Archive in Baghdad: a challenge to say the least, in a country ravaged by war and civil unrest.
Librarian - Web Log - Baghdad - New York Times

Chicagoland Barbies

2007-02-02T13:05:00.000-06:00

" Highland Park Barbie"
This princess Barbie is sold only at The Galleria. She comes with an assortment of Kate Spade Handbags, a Lexus SUV, a long-haired foreign dog named Honey and a cookie-cutter house. Available with or without tummy tuck and face-lift. Workaholic Ken sold only in conjunction with the augmented version.

" Naperville Barbie"
The modern day homemaker Barbie is available with Ford Wind star Minivan and matching gym outfit. She gets lost easily and has no full-time occupation. Traffic jamming cell phone sold separately.
"Round Lake Barbie "
This recently paroled Barbie comes with a 9mm handgun, a Ray Lewis knife,a Chevy with dark tinted windows, and a Meth Lab Kit. This model is only available after dark and must be paid for in cash (preferably small, untraceable bills) .unless you are a cop, then we don't know what you are talking about.

"Lincoln Park Barbie"
This yuppie Barbie comes with your choice of BMW convertible or Hummer H2. Included are her own Starbucks cup, credit card and country club membership. Also available for this set are Shallow Ken and Private School Skipper. You won't be able to afford any of them.

" Lockport Barbie"
This pale model comes dressed in her own Wrangler jeans two sizes too small, a NASCAR t-shirt and tweety bird tattoo on her shoulder. She has a six-pack of Bud light and a Hank Williams Jr. CD set. She can spit over 5 feet and kick mullet-haired Ken's butt when she is drunk. Purchase her pickup truck separately and get a confederate flag bumper sticker absolutely free.

" Old Town Barbie"
This collagen injected, rhino plastic Barbie wears a leopard print outfit and drinks cosmopolitans while entertaining friends. Percocet prescription available as well as warehouse conversion condo.

" Burbank Barbie"
This tobacco-chewing, brassy-haired Barbie has a pair of her own high-heeled sandals with one broken heel from the time she chased beer-gutted Ken out of Butler Barbie's house. Her ensemble includes low-rise acid-washed jeans, fake fingernails, and a see-through halter-top. Also available with a mobile home.

" Oak Park Barbie"
This doll is made of actual tofu. She has long straight brown hair, arch-less feet, hairy armpits, no makeup and Birkenstocks with white socks. She prefers that you call her Willow . She does not want or need a Ken doll, but if you purchase two Point Breeze Barbies and the optional Subaru wagon, you get a rainbow flag bumper sticker for free.

" Maywood Barbie"
This Barbie now comes with a stroller and infant doll. Optional accessories include a GED and bus pass. Gangsta Ken and his 1979 Caddy were available, but are now very difficult to find since the addition of the infant.

" Winnetka Barbie"
She's perfect in every way. We don't know where Ken is because he's always out a-'huntin'.
" Halsted Avenue Barbie/Ken"
This versatile doll can be easily converted from Barbie to Ken by simply adding or subtracting the multiple snap-on body parts.

Spam Jobs

2007-01-15T01:39:00.000-06:00

Looking for employment can be tedious and time consuming alone, but add the frustration of fake jobs or ‘opportunities’ and it can drive you insane. These types of jobs/opportunities are generally for positions that you have to pay a start-up fee, insurance agents, or a phony recruiter hording resumes. You’ll find these job listings all over the employment boards and if you have a resume posted on the site it’s almost certain you’ll receive a million emails soliciting a ‘great opportunity’. It’s spam at its worse!

Spam jobs prey on individuals that have a tendency to really need employment, slightly depressed, often on a tight budget, and eager to start working again.

Who are the driving force behind these spam jobs? They’re recruiters or temp agencies hording resumes trying to boost their databases, they’re scammers collecting your personal information (social security, address, and more), pyramid schemes promising large amounts of income, or other counterfeit operations.

Unfortunately there isn’t much you can do to avoid receiving these emails or fake calls, and sometimes it can be hard to identify a fake job. However there are some things you can do to bypass getting duped. These are based on personal experience and are more of suggested guidelines or warning signs that you might need to proceed with caution:

A recruiter is overly excited about talking to you about a “great opportunity that matches your skills”, but is vague about the job opportunity.
Recruiter asks for personal information (such as social security number, bank routing number for direct deposit, or indirectly asking about your appearances…eye color, etc.
High salary, but little, if any, explanation of the actual job.
Be weary if the company is listed as “confidential”
Avoid the insurance agent scams like the plague!!
Look at what time the email was sent...chances are HR isn't sending you emails at 5:30am.

Job hunters beware these scammers are getting smarter and better at disguising their true intent. However here are some web sites that will help you avoid any unfortunate search disasters:

Personalizing the Job Hunt

2007-01-09T14:19:00.000-06:00

Finding a job can be a full-time job for most, but arming yourself with the right tools and applying technology can ease the process. Often you can save time by streamlining your search simply by establishing an online hub that channels several of your favorite sites or links in one central location. For those with their own websites and HTML/RSS knowledge this is easy way to minimize your search efforts. You can also use Yahoo!, Google or even MSN to building your personalized job hunt page.

On my personal page (as shown) I have 2-3 RSS feeds, several employment search and information sites, personal links to my email, and miscellaneous links that I always visit.

myFavicon

2007-01-04T10:45:00.000-06:00

I’m so excited I learned how to add a Favicon (sounds like some kind of Transformer) to the browser when people visit my site(s). Check out the new Favicon at the top of your browser next (first) time you visit http://www.employtroy.com/

Unfinished Business: Saddam is Dead

2006-12-30T07:38:00.000-06:00

In Baghdad early Saturday morning Saddam Hussein was hanged just before dawn during the morning call to prayer on Saturday, Baghdad time, according to senior Western official. His death comes after an extended 10 month trial and symbolizes the end of a dictatorship that ruled Iraq by fear and violence.

Despite his crimes against humanity, you have to wonder if the current President Bush in some small way pushed for Hussein’s death to avenge the assassination attempt on his father years before.

Now that Saddam is dead, the violence will most likely increase in Iraq, and further extending the U.S. military presence. Yet again, posing the question of why the Americans are a leading force in what some might consider an Iraqi civil war. Isn’t it time to cut strings to the American puppeteer and give Iraq some of hope of having a legitimate government? Iraq doesn’t need another silent dictator, especially from a remote location in Crawford, Texas.

A Salute to Gerald R Ford

2006-12-27T11:01:00.000-06:00

Some men are born great while others have greatness thrust upon them. For President Ford it was the latter that became his destiny as he emerged into the spot light of the Nation after numerous scandals rocked the White House. Despite the fact he was the only person ever to become President without being elected, it was his integrity and demeanor that helped lead the Nation through one of the worse scandals in American History. Although most Americans at the time did not embrace Mr. Ford as President, many admired and greatly respected him.

At a time when I face tough decisions and an uncertain future, his death brings light to his amazing life of hard work, integrity, and perseverance. It’s a reminder that greatness follows hard work.

“The harder you work, the luckier you are,” he said once in summarizing his career. “I worked like hell.”

Even though funeral services are still yet to be determined, reports are the former President will be laid to rest on the grounds of the Gerald Ford Memorial Museum in Grand Rapids, MI (my home town).

http://www.geraldfordmemorial.com/

Quote of the Day

2006-12-06T23:26:00.000-06:00

Books have the same enemies as people: fire, humidity, animals, weather, and their own content. - Paul Valery

My Birthday Wish: End AIDS

2006-12-01T11:13:00.000-06:00

On this day, my date I entered the world 32 years ago, I wish for a future without HIV/AIDS. Show your support for the millions of people around the World fighting for survival and a cure.

Meaning of the Red Ribbon:
The proliferation of red ribbons unifies the many voices seeking a meaningful response to the HIV/AIDS epidemic. It is a symbol of hope: the hope that one day soon the HIV/AIDS epidemic will be over, that the sick will be healed, that the stress upon our society will be relieved. It serves as a constant reminder of the many people suffering as a result of this disease, and of the many people working towards a cure- a day without HIV/AIDS.

World AIDS Day websites:

On this day...

2006-12-01T07:41:00.000-06:00

http://www.nytimes.com/learning/general/onthisday/20061201.html?th&emc=th

Girls Gone Gay Wild

2006-11-30T02:53:00.000-06:00

Lately there seems to be an influx of screaming straight women hanging out in the Boystown bars. It’s these women and the gay boys who funnel them into the gay distract that we must address.

However, before we sink our teeth into these lovely ladies and their enablers, we need to define who they are and how they differ from the cool women. Although many would term these gals as the usual ‘fag-hags’, the nickname is just a generalization for the straight world. In fact there is a hierarchy of these women, and the term ‘fag-hag’ is merely a part of a sub-category of women who prefer hanging out with gay men. Whether or not your gal pal fits into one of these categories, there is a noticeable difference in personalities between the hierarchy tiers of these women that you’ll see stumbling around Boystown.

Fairy Princess
This type of girl is at the top of the gay gal pal hierarchy. Typically she can be described as being young(er), very cute, fashionable, super chill, witty, a tad sassy, and has razor sharp gaydar. She’ll always have your back, but often will try to hook you up and return to the dance floor. Don’t be fouled, although she may prefer hanging out in the gay scene, she’s a master of both gay and straight worlds. Think Karen Walker (Will&Grace).

Fag-Hag
Although a fag-hag is very similar to a Princess there are slight, but noticeable, differences. The term is a broader term that describes a type of girl who just don’t fit into the Fairy Princess category. Generally a fag-hag requires more attention then a Fairy Princess, and usually will get upset if you were to leave her at the club/bar. Even though she’s completely cool with the gay scene she more times than none just doesn’t relate to hetero world. Think Grace Adler (Will&Grace)

Fruit Fly
Boys, watch out for your penis! Contrary to a Princess or Hag this type of girl is holding out for the slim chance that the gay thing is just a phase. She’ll often get jealous of boys showing interest and will get upset if you leave her alone for more than 5 minutes. Many may argue that she’s the equivalence of hag, but this is simply not true. It’s all in the name, and a fruit fly can typically be spotted as the girl is very needed of her gay ‘boyfriend’ almost to the point of being annoying (like a fly). Be careful with this one, no need to break any hearts. Think Ricki Lake

The Trixie
She’s the Fairy Princess’ evil step-sister! Loud, often obnoxious, often looks very out of her element, and is only hanging out with you because she thinks it’s cool to have a token gay friend. Out of all the categories she’s the least stable and can go from extremely fun and friendly to super bitch in the blink of the eye. Gay or straight these girls are often looked as the pretty bitches everyone can’t stand, but instead we’ll just give them the gay death glare.

It’s these Trixies that seem to be causing all the raucous in the gayberhoood. Seriousily who are these girls that buddy-up with gay boys, and think they’ve been given license to go completely ape shit throughout Boystown. Haven’t seen them? They can be easily spotted by just watching the bartenders or staff cringe as these ladies enter the bar/club, the girls are usually in their early 20’s, giving sass to the bartenders, obnoxiously yelling, a part of a bacherlorette party (which is yet another way to remind us that gay’s can’t legally get married), getting plastered off Zinfandel, and has the newbie glow (similar to your cat when she’s in heart).

This is a call to all the gay boys who bring their girly girls to the bar/club. Make sure your lady friends understand some basic things before venture inside... 1) It's a gay bar and not a straight one with a bunch of queers, 2) cool it on the unnecessary screaming or yelling, 3) drop the attitude, you're on gay turf and we’re really not interested in your equipment, 4) no more than two gal pals per gay boy. Remember these simple guidelines and this really will be a gay world!

The Laid Report

2006-11-13T10:53:00.000-06:00

Too most people it isn’t any surprise that Rumsfeld resigned shortly after the elections last week! Nor do I think anyone really believes that he left on his own, and that his departure was the first wave of change in Washington. However, being that I too was recently laid off I have to wonder what Rumsfeld’s severance package looked like. I bet he got to keep his camouflage 3-piece Armoni suit.

Do you think he’ll be collecting unemployment?

Chicago's Gay Cheers

2006-11-07T14:37:00.000-06:00

Sometimes you just want some place where everyone knows your name, and taking a break from all your worries. Well, in Chicago’s Boystown there is such a place for me, and it’s called Roscoe’s Tavern. Aside from being one of Chicago’s more popular bars on Halsted, it’s conveniently located steps away from my apartment.

For my group of friends it’s out ‘tree house’, which is appropriately named for the common meeting ground where the boys’ hangout and no girls are allowed (well, maybe a few). It’s the type of place I can go alone and almost always guaranteed to run into friends, and if I’m lucky my favorite bartender Joey is on duty. Not only is he one of the cutest guys in Boystown, he’s also super sweet guy that always remembers what I’m drinking and often is getting it ready as I wait in line. Joey is by far one of the best bartenders in B-Town, which is made clear by the sheer fact that you can typically find his line is 4-5 thick while other stations are empty. Roscoe’s wouldn’t be Roscoe’s without Joey!

Besides being the home of my favorite bartender, Roscoe’s has a very welcoming feel to it, and its easy to feel right at home. It’s the destination of choice for my buds, a place where we can talk about the daily grind, have a good laugh, a place where we can be ourselves without persecution about being gay, and just forget about life for a little bit.

Roscoe’s to me is the gay version of Cheers.

Like "Boo" it's Halloween

2006-10-31T18:42:00.000-06:00

It’s one of my favorite holidays of the year because what other time of the year can you find good girls and boys morphing into little monsters. I think it’s just too fun to dress up as whoever/whatever you want and pretending for one evening. Not to mention all the treats and tricks (yes, you can read into that)! You better believe your bottom (dollar) that I’ll be shaking my ass on the dance floor at Roscoe's to MJ’s Thriller (it’s only one of my all time favorite Halloween songs).

However, as much as I like Halloween I do raise issue with a few costumes that really need to be retired.

Women's outfits
Sexy Kitty (W) - Comment: umm, it’s a cat that shits in a kitty litter
Sexy Nurse (W) - Comment: all the nurses I’ve seen have been

Top Gay outfits:

Anything shirtless- Comment: really boys, there are some that really shouldn’t do this
Sailor – Comment: gosh, could we be any more original?
Drag – Comment: What is it about gay men and dress-up in a wig and a dress. I think every gay man (even the butchest) want to know what it’s like be a pretty girl. Except some guys look better in drag then out.
Sexy doctor: Ok, ya got me there, except there's nothing sexy about scrubs in my opinion. Besides I think people are just attacked to the fact that doctors are smart and well off.
Cowboys – Comment: yes we all saw Brokeback Mountain and you are no Jake or Heath. Still it’s better to save a horse and ride a cowboy!

Troy’s 2006 favorites:

Costumes
A dirty mechanic
Animals in costumes (I’m a sucker for it)
Season treats
Pumpkin latte
Candy
Carmel apple (just had one right before the Halsted Halloween Parade and it was DAMN good)

Well I need to get ready for a night of boo-boo-boozin'

Happy Halloween!!

Paxel Back

2006-10-30T23:49:00.000-06:00

Perfect for the unemployed:
http://grouper.com/video/MediaDetails.aspx?id=1591976

Soul Free

2006-10-22T19:09:00.001-05:00

It’s only been a few days since I was laid off from Getty, but I’m in an incredibly good mood. In many ways I have a hard time believing that I would find myself in the same situation a year after the last time I was let go. Although the circumstances are similar to last time, I find myself so much stronger than in the past. In fact when the VP from human resources brought me into her office I was smiling, laughing, and extremely positive. She even commented on how lively I was considering the conditions for our meeting. I told her that I’m no stranger to this kind of thing and that I’m sure it’s for the greater good.

Last year I was a completely different person as I tried so hard to find the positive in so many major life distractions. I was one hot mess that was struggling to find a way to deal with leftover emotions for someone I still cared deeply about, yet was ignored (funny how that works). I guess that’s just how some people deal with their feels, they pretend it never happened. At times I became so overwhelmed and fixated on my life that I nearly broke down. However, I got past that stuff and here I am...I survived and stronger because of it.

As I got on the elevator at work for the last time, I stood there with a big smirk on my face and thought about everything I’ve learned and what being at Getty has done for me. I thought about all the other incredible things currently happening in my life… I have a cool roommate, a nice apartment, surrounded by tons of family/friends, a part of great sports team, and the energy I get from having my events and fundraisers.

When I stepped out of that office building, I wasn't a man without a job. Iwas a man with an amazing new opportunity for change and a bright future. I feel so free, and ready once again to spread my wings and soar.

Father to Son

2006-10-18T01:29:00.000-05:00

Cancer—it’s an ugly word that often times triggers many emotions and wondering thoughts not only for the patients, but also for the family, friends and loved-ones. There is fear, uncertainty, anger, anxiety, depression and sometimes self-pity or denial. For friends or family it can be difficult to watch the cancer patient deal with the therapy/treatment.

When I was younger, a good friend of mine and my family was diagnosed with cancer. Jeffrey was only 14, the same age as me, when we found out he had cancer. Over the next year he quickly went from the ability to have a conversation to only a few facial expressions. I can still remember that helpless feeling I would get every time I visit him. I mean for the majority of my childhood I use to run around playing Transformers and hide-and-seek every week with this guy. Seeing my friend slowly fade was hard, but I don’t think it really sunk in until shortly after his fifteenth birthday when the cancer finally took over and he passed away.

One thing I think helped him hold on for so long and gave him strength was the immense amount of encouragement and love from the people who surrounded him daily. It’s something that I’ve admired about his life even to this day. He was such a great person that all these people would come visit him and wish him well.

I wonder now if in some small way seeing that with Jeffery's friends/family has prepared me for a similar situation again in my life, but this time hitting closer to home.

Recently my dad called me and in a soft voice told me he was diagnosed with cancer. The phone went silent for a few moments as we both sat there uncertain what to say next. The silence broke when my step-mom got on the phone and began to inform me that my dad was going into surgery in a few weeks to remove the cancer. She assured me it wasn't bad and that everything was going to be fine.

Fortunately my dad has a less severe type of cancer than my childhood buddy. However, through my childhood experience I've come to understand the healing power of love and encouragement, and in a few weeks I’m going to make sure my dad is reminded that he’s got a fabulous loving son that will be there to help him through this thing.

http://www.cancer.org/

Friday 13-- A Thoroughly Modern Phenomenon?

2006-10-13T11:20:00.000-05:00

There are a number of intriguing connections between events, practices and beliefs attributed to ancient cultures and the superstitious fear of Fridays and the number 13. However, there is yet an explanation of how, why or when these separate strands of folklore converged to brand Friday the 13th as the unluckiest day of all.

Maybe a simple explanation can be explained as…no one really knows the answer.
One theory suggests that the date is cause of one unfortunate event in history known as the decimation of the Knights Templar, the legendary order of “warrior monks” formed during the Christian Crusades to combat Islam. Renowned as a fighting force for 200 years, by the 1300s the order had grown so pervasive and powerful it was perceived as a political threat by kings and popes alike and brought down by a church-state conspiracy, as recounted by Katharine Kurtz in Tales of the Knights Templar (Warner Books: 1995):

“On October 13, 1307, a day so infamous that Friday the 13th would become a synonym for ill fortune, officers of King Philip IV of France carried out mass arrests in a well-coordinated dawn raid that left several thousand Templars — knights, sergeants, priests, and serving brethren — in chains, charged with heresy, blasphemy, various obscenities, and homosexual practices. None of these charges was ever proven, even in France — and the Order was found innocent elsewhere — but in the seven years following the arrests, hundreds of Templars suffered excruciating tortures intended to force ‘confessions,’ and more than a hundred died under torture or were executed by burning at the stake.”

Not so fast!

Is Friday the 13 a thoroughly modern day phenomenon? The proof may be found by taking a quick trip in history. If you were to go back 100 years “Friday the 13th” isn’t even mentioned in E. Cobham Brewer's voluminous 1898 edition of the Dictionary of Phrase and Fable, which is the definitive bible of myths and fables during it’s time. However, on the book does have entries for "Friday, an Unlucky Day" and "Thirteen Unlucky." When the date of ill fate finally does make an appearance in later editions of the text, it is without extravagant claims as to the superstition's historicity or longevity. The very brevity of the entry is instructive: "A particularly unlucky Friday. The idea suggests that the day so infamous with misfortune derives account from the accrual of two bad omens.

Unlucky Friday + Unlucky 13 = Unluckier Friday
(See explanation below)

If that's the case, we are guilty of perpetuating a misnomer by labeling Friday the 13th "the unluckiest day of all."

From: *E. Cobham Brewer 1810–1897. Dictionary of Phrase and Fable. 1898.

Thirteen Unlucky.

The Turks so dislike the number that the word is almost expunged from their vocabulary. The Italians never use it in making up the numbers of their lotteries. In Paris no house bears the number, and persons, called Quartorziennes (q.v.), are reserved to make a fourteenth at dinner parties. 1
“Jamais on ne devrait
Se mettre a table treize,
Mais douze c’est parfait.”
La Mascotte (an opera), i. 5.

Sitting down thirteen at dinner, in old Norse mythology, was deemed unlucky, because at a banquet in the Valhalla, Loki once intruded, making thirteen guests, and Baldur was slain. 2
In Christian countries the superstition was confirmed by the Last Supper of Christ and His twelve apostles, but the superstition itself is much anterior to Christianity. 3
Twelve at a dinner table, supposing one sits at the head of the table and one at the bottom, gives a party to these two, provided a couple is divided; but thirteen, like any other odd number, is a unicorn.

Friday, an Unlucky Day.

Because it was the day of our Lord’s crucifixion; it is accordingly a fast-day in the Roman Catholic Church. Soames says, “Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit on a Friday, and died on a Friday.” (Anglo-Saxon Church, p. 255.) 1
“But once on a Friday (’tis ever they say),
A day when misfortune is aptest to fail.”
Saxe: Good Dog of Bretté, stanza 3.

In Spain, Friday is held to be an unlucky day. So is it esteemed by Buddhists and Brahmins. The old Romans called it nefastus, from the utter overthrow of their army at Gallia Narbonensis. And in England the proverb is that a Friday moon brings foul weather.

Interesting fact:
Those who are supersticous or are fasinated by queer facts will find this interesting. All these serial killers have 13 letters in their name:

Charles Manson
Harold Shipman
Frederick West
Saddam Hussein
Jeffrey Dahmer
Theodore Bundy
Jack the Ripper

Mexico at the center of the Universe?

2006-10-10T10:21:00.000-05:00

Starting today (Tuesday, October 10, 2006) the world is invited to submit text, images, video and sounds that reflect human nature to be included in a special message beamed into space. It’s all a part of an initiative from Yahoo’s “Time Capsule” project that will beam a snapshot of human behavior into infinite Universe in search of extraterrestrials.

Yahoo! plans to beam the time capsule from the Pyramid of the Sun at Teotihuacán which is about 30 miles from Mexico City. The message is set to launch on October 25 and we should hear something from our alien brothers in about 20 light-years. Still, it’s a fun project and bravo to Yahoo for doing something different.

How would you define us humans? What would you submit? What would you want extraterrestrials to think of Earthlings? My only question is how do you decided where to point the beam?

To participate go to: http://timecapsule.yahoo.com/capsule.php

N. Korea Gets 'Nucular'

2006-10-09T09:50:00.000-05:00

Does anyone know the elite eight states/countries who are in the Nuclear Arms game?

N. Korea (and we thought Saddam Hussein was an issue? PUH-LEASE! lil' Kim is currrazy!)
United States (good thing Bush knows his colors...otherwise he might accidentally his the little red button labeled "Nucular")

Two brownie points for anyone who can name the rest...

Fun-raiser

2006-10-08T21:20:00.001-05:00

Riptide strikes!

Fundraising for a career? I just might! This event raised money for my water polo team: http://www.flickr.com/photos/employtroy/

Restroom Etiquette

2006-10-04T14:12:00.000-05:00

When it comes to matters of the using la toilette there are a few simple guidelines that everyone should abide. Applying these rules in both the home and in public will make all of our trips to the restroom a little more comfortable.

The DOO DOO Rule
Do Onto Others, as you would have them do onto you…
How many times have you walked into a stall only to find what might resemble an aborted fetus starring at you. You don’t want to see that crap (literally) and nor does anyone else. PEOPLE use common courtesy and flush the god damn toilet!

If in a stall, and you need to just pee, and then lift the lid so you don’t piss all over it. When you’re done, put the lid back down (you can use your foot). It’s a golden rule when you’re taking a golden tinkle.

The Courtesy Flush
It’s probably one of the easiest and most useful etiquettes out there, yet one of least used and under appreciated washroom protocols . Whether you’re at home or forced to use a cruisy rest-stop toilet, this tactics can help save your dignity and spare others from the ungodly noise of your ass exploding.

Apply this guideline simply by reaching around and flushing the toilet as you’re about to…umm, relieve your body’s excrement.

In the even you find yourself having to use a pot-o-potty, then cross your fingers that there’s no one listening.

Double Flush
Fragments of your feces lining the toilet is never a pretty site, and leaving remnants for others is only a sign of your dirty skid make ass. Be polite and don’t leave the stall until the toilet is the way you found it…fresh water and clean. This simple little task will make you a polite potty person.

Go to the next one
Unless you’re in a long line at a club or public space you should always try to go the next urinal or stall if someone is already in one. Allow people a little privacy and help remove an awkward moment by shitting right next to them.

Icksnay on the Conversationa
While in the stall or at the urinal is not an appropriate time to have a conversation. The only acceptable amendment to this rule is when you’re in need of toilet paper or you need assistance for your colon that has just fallen out. Another exemption is briefly talking at the sink.

Gay man rule! You should never try to hit on a guy while you’re at the urinal. You’re there to pee, not get a date. Wait until you’re out of the restroom to strike up a conversation. If you don’t, then you’re simply going to look creepy and desperate. You especially shouldn’t make a comment about the other guy’s package or what you want to do with it. Even if the guy thinks you’re cute and is into you, you’re bound to loose points for being too aggressive at the wrong time/place.

If you’re at home and have a BF/GF/Roommate/Friend in the house using the facility, don’t try to talk about evening plans or what you need to get from the grocery store. Turning on the TV or playing a little music can also be courteous to the individual relieving themselves.

So next time Mother Nature calls, take these simple little tips into mind.

Water Warrior

2006-09-27T23:42:00.000-05:00

In the game of water polo you have to learn how to roll with the punches, kicks, scratches, and sometimes nearly drowning. However, the best thing you can learn when playing the game is that it’s all a part of the sport and there is no room for the meek.

Last night my boundaries were pushed to the limits in a scrimmage against my own team. One minute I was defending the ball, and then the next I got cracked in the nose by a teammates’ elbow. The session lasted less then 3 minutes, but my wounds will be a prominent feature of my face for the next few days. In true water polo fashion the game was picked-up immediately after I got out of the water, and despite my captains order to bench me I still wanted back in the water for more.

As blood ran from my nose I smiled with pride and stood tall like a warrior. My nose, now black and blue, is a symbol of my pride and willingness to go after what I want regardless of being hurt.

In many ways the game is similar to life. When you fall or get pushed down you stand up and fight back....well maybe after a fiver minute breather.

'N Sync with Justin

2006-09-12T20:00:00.000-05:00

There's something about Justin that just drives me crazy. Aside from his hot new signle "SexyBack" Justin is quickly proving he just may be America's new pop king.

9/11

2006-09-11T08:45:00.000-05:00

8:45 am

Flight 11 strikes the north tower of the World Trade Center, and the war on terror begins along with the conspiracies.

The Breakup x's 3

2006-09-06T16:29:00.000-05:00

Recently breaking up seems to be the trend in my small group of friends. Apparently a few of them have called it quits to their long term relationships, some that span 3-5 years. For most of them I’ve gotten to know both people equally and enjoy both of their company, so the challenge I’m now faced to juggle is how to stay out of the cross fire and remain neutral.

What do you do when your best buds break up? Obliviously they’re going to share their feelings about the situation…ugh, just not sure what to do!

wha, ha, huh, whatcha talkin' bout I ain't gay

2006-08-31T10:29:00.001-05:00

Is it really that big of a surprise? PLEASE!

Another Day Another Car Chase

2006-08-30T10:15:00.000-05:00

On the news right now there’s yet another car chase happening in Texas. I don’t know why these people run, they ALWAYS get caught. Especially when the helicopter picks them up, you’re basically screwed. In an average week there are generally 2-3 car chases that make it into the national spotlight

Probably the most famous car chase was with OJ Simpson back in the late 90’s, but what do you think the most notorious car chasing towns (aside from Hazzard County, GA)?

Troy’s top picks:

Los Angeles (umm, by standing ovation)
Houston (hell, anywhere in Texas)
Miami

I think deep down, I’m just a good o’boy from the country…come on now sings along with me:

Just two good old boys, never meanin' no harm...Beats all you never saw, been in trouble with the law Since the day they was born. Straightenin' the curves, flattenin' the hills... Someday the mountain might get 'em but the law never will.Makin' their way, the only way they know how... That's just a little bit more than the law will allow. Just two good ol' boys, wouldn't change if they could,Fightin' the system like two modern-day Robin Hoods...

Yeeeehaaaaaaaaa!

c-ya Pluto

2006-08-24T22:19:00.000-05:00

The International Astronomical Union has just voted on the official definition of planet, ejecting Pluto from the pantheon of the planets and leaving only the "classical" eight.

For years Pluto was considered a planet, but now the name is nothing more than the description of a Disney character.

Blind Justice

2006-08-23T23:18:00.000-05:00

After this whole Jon Benet murder mystery resurfaced, I’ve had a hard time believing that John Karr actually committed the murder. I think he’s a man that became so enthralled by the case and Jon Benet that he started to believe he did it. Until the DNA comes back there are major holes in his story. Like where he actually was the night of the murder, the fact that he told police that he picked her up from school (it was Christmas), the family didn’t know him, and that he would only give certain details of the case.

Personally I think that Jon Benet was the victim of a very secrete child pornography ring that Karr and the Ramsey’s where a part of. I also believe that Karr isn’t the killer, but may help officials find the culprit.

There seems to be a lot of stories in the news lately that just don’t jive with me. I can see the twists and turns in the Benet, and the Ken Lay story also seems to be really fishy.

Don’t you think it’s a little odd that Ken Lay was facing the rest of his life in prison, and just happen to have a heart attack only a few weeks before his sentencing? I also find it strange that the family announced his death while he was on vacation and that his body was immediately cremated. With hundreds of millions of stolen money, don’t you think it would be extremely easy to change your identity, pay a few people off, and slip into obscurity for the remainder of your life? Who would question it? Would you keep quiet if you were offered $100-$500k?

Osma bin Ladin & 9/11 is yet another case that we’ll never know the truth. The lack of indictment is simply inexcusable and unacceptable, yet the media continues to allow the neo con to shrill without holding it accountable for its peculiar detachment from the founder and leader of Al-Qaeda. After all, the evidence threshold for gaining a federal indictment is much lower than for gaining a conviction. Yet for reasons that remain obscure from the public record, the U.S. government, under full neo con control, has not gained such an indictment of Osama bin Laden. For rightful doubters of what the U.S. government and the mainstream media have been and continue to report about the bazaar War on Terror, this lack of indictment only fuels suspicion of the U.S. government. It is obvious that by its lack of response to what should be a fairly easy question to answer, the DOJ Public Affairs Office is withholding information that clearly should be in the public domain – particularly since so much of the neo con agenda hinges on Americans believing the entire 9/11, Osama bin Laden, Al-Qaeda story.

Don’t you think that it’s just a little odd that according to the FBI, Osama bin Laden is wanted by the U.S. government in connection with the August 7, 1998 bombings of the United States Embassies in Dar es Salaam, Tanzania, and Nairobi, Kenya. So why, as of June 14, 2006, is Osama bin Laden not wanted by the U.S. government in connection with the events of September 11, 2001?

Queer enough?

2006-08-16T09:36:00.000-05:00

From the producers that didn’t bring you American Pie or Scary Movie 1 thru 4 comes a movie that’s so gay it just might be the gayest movie ever! With a script that pretty much rips off of American Pie nearly scene by scene and shows no original thought, it makes you wonder what the movie has to offer…

The movie is about four guys who recently graduated from high school and are determined to loose their virginity by Labor Day. Besides from being slightly unrealistic, seriously is it that hard for a horny cute teenager to get some ass (umm, no!), the movie does highlight a shift in Hollywood and maybe even America.

When gay characters were first introduced in cinema they were most often depicted as villains or depressed. Another Gay Movie is sign that films are slowly losing the stigma that gay characters have to be constantly suffering from an identity crisis or worrying about coming out. The movie brings the same concentration and lack of shame when talking about sex that other hetero teen movies.

Whether you’re a top, bottom, or bottom-curious you’re sure to get a kick out of this flick currently playing in select theaters. Go with an open mind, and don’t expect too much from Another Gay Movie: http://www.anothergaymovie.com/

Messenger 58

2006-08-11T21:39:00.000-05:00

Here’s the latest and greatest website from my creative side. I’d also like to wish my buddies good luck as they venture over to NYC for the 2006 FringeNYC…I’ve got a funny feeling about these folks… I suppose that could also be gas…not sure.

Enjooooy: http://www.messenger58.com

Trans-Atlantic 911

2006-08-10T10:14:00.000-05:00

Across the news channels security was the buzzing topic as authorities announced today of a major terrorist attacked that was disrupted by an international anti-terror task force. Questions still remain who was really behind the plot, but the general thought is that Al Qaeda will declare credit.

The plot was described as major terrorist activity that would have claimed the lives of hundreds of people. Although the plot was derailed, for the most part, it’s apparent that the attackers have managed to ground hundreds of flights and get the attention of the world. Now as the world airports clamp down on security, it reminds us that it’s not a question of ‘if’ there will be another 911 rather ‘when’.

Junior Board?

2006-08-07T19:19:00.000-05:00

Cross your fingers...Troy's about to become a board member...it sounds so grown up

One Year—and still no excuses

2006-07-31T01:01:00.000-05:00

It’s been one year since I officially started this blog. It’s strange to think that it’s been that long, but it’s been a fantastically strange journey. Comparing where I was this time last year I can only smile, because I survived and I proved, mostly to myself, that I am strong and can make it through almost anything.

In part, I think that hosting a charity event, playing water polo in the Gay Games, and surrounding myself with fun and positive people has helped me to this point. However, being able to write and express myself has probably been the most therapeutic.

At times this blog has been my public journal and a chance to express my feelings, ideas, and views. I’ve never made the effort to stand out as a journalist or professional writer. In fact, I am quite aware that I have spelling, grammar, and format issues…and to that I say “oh well”. I have no excuses and I honestly don’t care. On so many levels this blog has allowed me get over people and situations that have weighed so heavily on my shoulders and in my past. It's also given me a platform to openly express how I should change my life and think through tough situations. I think a person feels a certain level of accountability to stick to a plan and honor their words when they say it in a public forum.

Originally this blog served as a means to vent my frustration in the work force and corporate America, but now it’s taken new direction and has been something more meaningful to me. Although it’s not my goal to entertain or be insightful to those who read my rambling entries, but I do hope those who have been reading enjoy it. I look forward to writing more in the weeks, months, and years ahead. Please stay tuned in.

Chicago Still in Running for Gold

2006-07-26T16:14:00.000-05:00

The US Olympic board today announced that Chicago is among three cities still in the running for the US bid for the 2016 Olympic host city. Los Angeles and San Francisco are the other two bidding to be the US choice, and the fact that LA hosted the games in 1984 may boost the chances of Chicago winning the bid.

Chicago has been host to many major events, including the recent Gay Games, which may show the city’s attitude to diversity in sportsmanship. Although a lot goes into picking the appropriate city to host the games, and with so much still to review it's hard to say for sure which metropolis is going to be the winner. The IOC won’t official announce the host city until October 2009. Until then, we’ll just have to cross our fingers!

Pink goes Red(eye)

2006-07-19T09:57:00.000-05:00

If you live in Chicago, then make sure to pick up the Chicago Redeye today (Wednesday, July 19, 2006) and flip on over to the "Wearwolves" fashion section--Page 61. Although I didn’t make it into the paper, I’m glad some of my guests got to strut their fashion loud and proud.

hee hee

2006-07-17T09:46:00.000-05:00

Huntch

2006-06-23T14:06:00.000-05:00

"Your subconscious mind constantly records and stores unrelated data from the outside world. Later, it combines these data into good answers--hunches--if you simply ask, trust, and listen. These hunches, for example, can lead you to taking a spontaneous vacation and away from making a bad investment." --From Creative Wack Pack

Madonna sucks!

2006-06-19T14:01:00.000-05:00

Ok not really, in fact I love the Diva just as much as any other queer boy. The only reason I’m saying this is because I couldn’t go to the concert this year. Last night I had several friends go to the concert, and now I get to hear them chatter about it. The last tour I had floor seats and went back stage, but this will be the first time I’ve missed one of her tours since we were both Virgins...

Well, let’s hope the sacrifice of giving up Madonna tickets in an effort to host the Pink Party pays off.

“Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.” -Napoleon Hill

PINK!!

2006-06-13T16:42:00.000-05:00

The Pink Party returns for an encore celebration, and with so much of my personal finances and energy already invested I’m a little nervous about how it will turn out. There is an estimated 500 people on the guest list, a photo shoot, website in 5 languages, special guests (maybe a couple of celebs), and tons of door prizes. There are only a few more weeks before the biggest event I’ve hosted, and the stress is quickly building.

I often have to close my eyes, take a deep breath, and remind myself that a greater good will come from my efforts and I will make those supporting me proud. I guess whenever you plan an event you never really know how it’s going to end up, but something in my heart tells me this will be a successful. I’ve had to face a lot of opposition and challenges (personal and professional) while planning this thing, so I really hope this thing comes off without a hitch.

The semi private event goes down July 14 (Bastille Day) just before the opening of the Gay Games.

If you're curious, check the slash page at: http://www.pinkpartychicago.org/